Done Running The Show

For my whole adult life, whatever I was involved in, I always wanted to run the show. But cancer changed all of that. Now I have no desire to be the one in charge, the one who’s organizing everything and making sure it all comes together. I’m done running the show.

I’ve wanted to run the show for most of the things I’ve been part of, especially musically. Many of the bands I’ve been in have been formed to do my original songs. I’ve been a sideman too, and had a gig as a backup singer in a country band for three years, along with my years as a wedding band singer. I was never the band leader for those gigs, and was happy not to be. But I’ve never been in a collaborative original music band. Every original band I’ve been in, I was in charge. We did my songs, arrangements, and parodies.

In every choir I’ve been in, I enjoyed singing in them, but what I really wanted to do was direct. I have directed many choirs. Choir directing has been one of my great musical passions over the years. But the last thing I want to do now is try to put a choir together and put on a Christmas concert. Not happening. I’m too tired.

Ditto for every church music program I’ve been involved in. For most of my life, I was a volunteer. I wasn’t in charge. But eventually, that became an itch that needed to be scratched as well. I finally got the chance to lead from 2011 to 2015. I got to decide what songs we did, how the service would go, what the PowerPoint would look like, who was in the band, and all the rest. Basically everything but the sermon. I got to do it in my own style, the way I thought it should be done. But now, when I go to church, that’s the furthest thing from my mind.

That’s been the case in the studio as well, but since I’m the producer, and it’s my studio, that’s to be expected. But I’m even losing my desire to do that. I have one more CD project to produce. One more show to run. Then I’m done. I’m looking forward to capping off that part of my career, but it makes me tired just thinking about it. I’m looking forward to moving on to what’s next.

I’ve been talking in this blog for weeks about my final big performance. It may seem ironic that I’m saying all of this after having just shared the videos of that concert on Facebook for the past two days, but for me, the two go hand in hand. The video of the full concert, and videos of each individual song, are on YouTube now. For anyone who reads this blog, but isn’t on Facebook, here is the full concert video. It’s an hour and 24 minutes long, so watch it later, or please come back!

That was one of the most difficult shows I’ve ever attempted to run, and not just because of cancer treatment. If you watch the video, you see how many people were involved. There were a lot of schedules that had to be juggled. The set was so long, I had to break rehearsals up into halves that rehearsed at separate times. Four rehearsals for each half were originally planned. We ended up rehearsing the first half three times, and the second half only two and a half times. And I wasn’t there for one of the two full rehearsals because I was sick. I cancelled another simply because I was having a bad day and just couldn’t do it. It came off remarkably well considering all of that – and adding a case of bronchitis on top of it – but it made me realize that I’m done trying to herd that many cats. I’m done running the show.

I went into the planning of that show fully intending to do another big one next year. After this performance, I realize that’s not in the cards. It’s not that I’ve lost the love of performing. It’s that I’ve lost my desire to do all of the work that goes into it. And it is a tremendous amount of work. Even a standard 25 minute set for this same event next year is too much if I’m in charge. If someone else has a song or two in their set that they want me to sing, and they’ll make it easy for me, we can talk. But I’m no longer motivated to put together sets of my own anymore. That itch was scratched very well this year.

You see, I’m retiring from music. Except for my work with the kids, my weekly song parody service for my two remaining radio clients, and my one last CD project, which will be finished in early 2017, I’m ready to step out of the spotlight. I don’t have the energy or the desire to stay in it anymore. I have other priorities now. God is leading me down a different path, and I’m fine with that. Better than fine, actually. I’m excited.

My fellow musicians and friends look at me like I have two heads when I say this is it. How can I just lay down my main passion in life with no regrets? Surely I’ll change my mind. Sorry, but I don’t think so. My mind has already been changed. So has my heart. I have new passions, and I’m anxious to pursue them.

I have a story to keep telling. I intend to start putting it into book form soon. My wife and I have a 40th anniversary celebration to plan. But my wife will run that show! And I have a dark chocolate ice cream empire to build. But first, I have to get the recipe right.

I no longer have any desire to be the one directing the music in church, but what I love to do now is speak. From proposing toasts and pronouncing blessings to officiating weddings, I love to share from my heart what God has placed there. I got a brief opportunity to do that in church last Sunday.

As you may know, last Sunday was the first Sunday of Advent. The first candle of the season, which symbolizes hope, is lit. My wife and I were asked to light the candle, read a verse of scripture, and say a few words. My wife took care of the candle lighting while I read a verse of scripture and shared for about five minutes on the subject of hope. I talked about what gives me hope, and where my hope is placed. Most of what I said was taken from this blog. I closed with another verse of scripture and a prayer. The “speech,” if you want to call it that, was planned ahead of time, but the prayer was totally off the cuff. I don’t like read or rehearsed prayers. I’d much rather just pray in the moment, and that’s what I did.

I think that five minute talk in church last Sunday was as meaningful for me as the concert was a week prior. And it took a whole lot less preparation and stress. But that’s not the point. It felt like the future. The concert felt like the past. This whole process feels like one outlet, one ministry is ending, and another is beginning. I don’t think this one will last 28 years, but I’ll take whatever I can get.

Part of what made last Sunday so meaningful for me was that I was just a small part of the service. I could still worship. I didn’t have a job to do while others worshiped. I just got up and said my piece when the pastor called me up. I didn’t have to run the show.

I don’t have to put a choir together, schedule rehearsals, and herd a million cats to make sure my church has a great Christmas program this year. But our closest friend is giving me a great gift this Christmas. I’m singing in her Christmas choir, and she asked me to direct one of the songs. A big arrangement of O Holy Night that she sings the solo on, (she’s the best singer I know) and a really fun song to direct. I don’t have to run the show. I don’t have to make sure everybody knows their part. I just get to step up when it’s my turn and direct the biggest song in the program. I couldn’t be more excited. What God takes away with his right hand, he gives back with his left.

If, after watching my concert video or having seen me perform or lead worship over the years, you’re disappointed that I’m hanging it up, if you’re finding it hard to understand why I’d stop doing something I obviously love so much, I can only say this. Hormone treatment is making me weaker all the time. But more than that, cancer has changed my priorities and passions. I’m not the guy I used to be.

Months ago, when I was having a hard time getting past some psychological blockage and getting back into a musical head space so I could get work done, I said that it felt like a page had turned, and I had to keep going back and rereading what I’d already read. I still feel that way now. But I’m closer to finally being able to turn that page for good and move on. I have a new path to walk, and I can’t wait to get started. I still have much to do, not the least of which is rest and focus on treatment. So no more big musical performances for me. I’m done running the show. #waroncancer

What I’m Thankful For

My heart is full today. I am so blessed that I can’t let this day go by without telling you what I’m thankful for. It’s a long list, which I know won’t surprise anyone. I’ll try to consolidate it as much as I can.

If you follow me on Facebook, you’ve seen shares of posts from last year at this time where I count my blessings, and talk about being thankful, not just in the bad times, but for them. Since I wrote those posts a year ago, much has happened. Most of it has been well documented in this blog. And over the past year, my gratitude has only increased.

To start with, I’m thankful for the opportunity I got to perform this past Sunday. I wrote about it on Facebook, but in case you didn’t see it, it was a wonderful night. It went very well, especially considering how little rehearsal we had on much of the program. I felt very loved, supported, and validated. Friends came from near and far, and I got to perform some songs that I’ve wanted to perform for a very long time. I’m thankful for the friends who put in many hours of practice and rehearsal time to put this concert on with me. You all rock!

There was a three camera shoot of the concert, and the video will be up on YouTube very soon. I’m thankful to have such a cool document of that event. I’ll cherish that video for the rest of my life.

I “went there” with the audience at the show. I explained to them why I felt the need to do an extra long set of “bucket list” songs. I told them about my disease and my prognosis. Things don’t often get that quiet in a bar, but you could have heard a pin drop. I’m happy to report that I did not cry. But a few other people did.

I also got to perform with my friend Todd and some of the kids I help to coach Sunday night. I’m very thankful for the opportunity to work with them. It means a great deal to me.

I’m thankful that I don’t feel any pain from my cancer yet. I still feel relatively normal, and that enables me to do the things I love to do. I am weak, and have little endurance, but I’m not incapacitated like many of my brothers are. That day is probably coming, but it isn’t here yet, and for that, I am thankful.

I’m thankful for Xtandi, which is keeping my PSA number down, and by so doing, keeping my cancer under control, at least for now. And in case we need to be reminded, now is all we have. None of us are promised tomorrow, or even five minutes from now. I think gratitude and peace happen when we live in the now, rather than worry about tomorrow, or live with regrets about yesterday.

I’m thankful that my treatment is 100% covered. Without that, my prognosis would be much shorter.

I’m thankful to live in the state of Colorado, where the alternative treatment I’ve just begun is so readily available. My next post will be all about that. It will be titled, “Tiny Popsicles.”

I’m thankful for my therapist. She has made a huge difference in my life. I’m in a much better place now than when we began our work several months ago. If you can afford counseling, or have coverage for it, I highly recommend it, especially for my brothers with prostate cancer and their loved ones. There is something about having someone to talk to who doesn’t know anyone that you know. It frees you to say exactly what’s on your mind, and get to the bottom of why you feel the way you do. I’m still getting there, but I’ve come a long away in just a short time. My therapist gets the credit for that.

I’m thankful for the supplement 5-HTP, and for the dear friend who turned me on to it. I, in turn, have told others about it, in the support groups I’m part of, in particular. It’s helped many of them too. I don’t feel like I need it as much anymore, as my body seems to have acclimated to the effects of Lupron after more than a year of injections, and because of the therapy I talked about. But I still take it from time to time when I’m upset, or feel like I’m about to get upset. It’s a godsend.

I’m thankful for the friendships I’ve made in those support groups. Some have become very close. I’m not going to name names, because I don’t want to leave anyone out. You know who you are. It’s hard for me to imagine my life without you. Our friendship has been an unexpected blessing. It’s hard for me to believe we didn’t even know each other a year ago. You have made a real difference in my life.

The same goes for new friendships made and deepened in person this past year. Again, you all know who you are. It blows my mind to think that, in some cases, we weren’t even friends last Thanksgiving. I don’t know how the past year would have gone without you in my life. I’m so grateful that we are friends now.

I can’t leave out my longstanding friendships. Most have gotten closer in the past year. Some have been revitalized. Some that were dormant have been restored. All are precious to me. I’m thankful to and for each and every one of you.

Two couples in particular have been a huge lifeline for us, financially. Without you, we wouldn’t make it. We are thankful for your friendship and your continued acts of love for us. Thank you. We love you.

My wife and I are also especially thankful for our closest friend, who just moved back here from California. Of all the blessings of the past year, that one ranks right at the top. Our friendship with you is a blessing beyond calculation. And once again, it was completely unexpected a year ago. How can we say thanks enough for a blessing like this? We can’t. But we are so grateful you are here. Your mere presence here has turned a light on in our lives. We thank God for you.

I’m thankful for my supportive, Godly family, who have been there for me throughout this ordeal. If not for the upbringing I had, and the prayers and encouragement I get from my family, I’d be in a much worse place than I am now. I’d have a much worse disposition about it, of that I’m sure. The faith that was instilled in me from a young age sustains me now. I don’t know how people without a supportive family get through something like this.

I’m thankful for my beautiful, amazing wife. If you know her, you know why. I’ve said many times over the years that if, God forbid, I ever lost her and had to get married again, it would have to be to someone who never knew her. Any woman who knows her would think, “There’s no way I can measure up to that.” And she would be right. If you’re one of the two or three people on earth who haven’t read the blog post I wrote about her, read Counting My Blessings #2: Sharon. Once you read that, you’ll know why I’m so thankful for her.

But the relationship that I’m most thankful for is the one I’ve experienced with God. The theme of this blog from the beginning has been how God has used cancer to wake me up to what’s really important; the people in my life, and my relationship with my Creator. God is more real to me now than he’s ever been before. My heart has been changed. My attitude has been changed. Everyone who knew me before has seen it. That’s a God thing.

We’ve all heard the expression that God is love. I can testify that it’s true. God’s very nature is pure love without conditions. From early on after I was diagnosed, God began revealing himself to me. The closer you get to God, the more you realize that God doesn’t just feel love for us, or perform acts of love. No, love is what God is. I now see that the love I’ve received from friends and family is a reflection of his love. All love comes from him. I am eternally grateful for his love, and yours. It’s all the same thing, whether you acknowledge it or not. Whether you acknowledge him or not. I’m thankful for love, and for the God from whom all love flows.

Since I went there with the audience Sunday night, I have to go there with you too. None of the above blessings would have happened without cancer. The new friendships, both online and in person, would not exist if it weren’t for my cancer. Even my relationships with old friends and family would not be what they are now if it weren’t for the fact that I have cancer. Certainly my relationship with God would not be what it is without that.

If not for cancer, I would not have had the opportunity to perform last Sunday to the extent that I did, and whatever I did would not have had as much meaning. I wouldn’t be working with those kids, either. And I wouldn’t even know what I was missing.

If not for cancer, I wouldn’t be writing this blog. I wouldn’t have this platform or this ministry. I am thankful for this blog, and for all of you who read it, and support it with likes, shares, and comments. Writing this blog has replaced music as my main passion. I never thought that would be possible, but there it is. I don’t regret for one second that last Sunday night’s performance was the last big one that I’ll put together myself. I love music, but God is leading me in a different direction now.

So yes, as counter-intuitive as it seems, as wrong as it may sound, I am thankful for my cancer. It has brought untold blessings to me. Yes, there is suffering too, and there will be more. Much more. For me, and for those who love me. But for me, the good has far outweighed the bad. This much love is worth any price.

As a pastor I once had used to say, I’m not done, but I guess I’ll quit. I could go on forever, and I almost did, as I’m fond of saying. I know you’re not thankful for my cancer, but I am. And I’m thankful for you. For everyone who takes the time to read what I write. Thank you.

So that’s what I’m thankful for. As you gather with family and friends today, and consider what you’re thankful for, I hope you’ll remember that the people in your life are more precious than anything else. And I hope you’ll remember that God not only loves you, he is love. Let him reveal himself to you the way he has to me. #waroncancer

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. (Psalm 118:1)

Steroids Are My Friend

Today is the first day I’ve felt pretty much normal since I came down with that cold, or bronchitis, or whatever crud it was. This was a tough one to put down. My usual regimen of echinacea, Vitamin C, and sleeping with a vaporizer wasn’t going to do the trick in time for my last big public performance this Sunday. It was time to call in the big guns.

I remember how a good friend of mine used to come down with something every year, right before a big production. So he would go to his doctor and get a steroid shot. Fixed him right up so he could get through the hours he’d have to put in. So I called my primary care doctor, and he couldn’t see me until sometime next week. That wasn’t going to work for me. I wasn’t sure what to do, so I called my oncologist’s office to ask if they could help me. They not only said they didn’t have what I was looking for, but that I should stay away from their offices while I’m sick. Oh yeah, there are chemo patients there, dummy. Can’t go there.

The nurse there told me to go to an Urgent Care facility. It was my first time going to one. There’s one very close to our house, so it was convenient. The consensus was that I had some kind of bronchitis, though they didn’t take a throat culture to make sure. The doctor just wrote me a prescription for a steroid (methylprednisolone) and an antibiotic. I’ve finished taking the antibiotics, and I have two more steroid pills to take. Beware my ‘roid rage. But I feel pretty much at full strength now. I still have a bit of phlegm going on, but my singing voice is back. And not a moment too soon. I have one of the two remaining rehearsals for Sunday’s performance today.

Years ago, my wife had to take Prednisone for something, and gained five pounds in three days. So she stopped taking it immediately! When I started taking mine, she guaranteed that I’d gain weight from it, but I haven’t. Not one pound over five days. Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful.

I’d feel good about that, except for the probable reason why. It’s not just because I’m naturally thin. It’s also because cancer is driving my weight back down. It’s eating me up one cell at a time, as my nutritionist confirmed a while back. Gaining weight has always been difficult for me, and losing weight very easy. It’s been a great advantage for me my whole life until now. It wouldn’t be too hard for Gaunt Cancer Guy to make a reappearance. But I won’t keep taking steroids to avoid it.

With the coverage I have now, my trip to Urgent care cost me a two dollar copay. Another two dollar copay for the prescriptions. That’s it. Under the old system, that would not have been possible for me. That trip to Urgent Care would have been two hundred dollars. I have no idea what the prescriptions would have cost. A few years ago, I probably would have had to call this show off.

When I said in my last post that all I was concerned about was being able to get coverage for my pre-existing condition, that wasn’t entirely true. I’m also concerned that I will have to buy insurance from a company that can charge me whatever they want because I’m in their highest risk category. The 100% risk category, as a matter of fact. To me, that would be the same thing as not being able to get insurance at all. Right now, I get a lot of help from the government. I doubt that same amount of help, if any, will be forthcoming next year. I really hope I’m proven wrong.

But in the meantime, I still have coverage now. I got my steroid pills in time to get me right for this performance. I’ll still have coverage when it’s time for my next Lupron shot in January. Hopefully everything will stay in place for a little while longer. Who knows? By the time things change, it may be a moot point for me. I hope not, but given how my cancer has behaved so far, it could happen.

But I’m not gonna think about that right now. Right now, I’m looking forward to this gig, followed by the holidays. I have a lot to be thankful for, and I want to tell you about it. It’s a good day. It’s the first day I’ve woken up in a good mood in a week. It’s the first day I’ve not felt sick in twelve days. I finally feel like myself again. Steroids are my friend. #waroncancer

Personal Consequences

They say that elections have consequences. That’s especially true of this one, for me personally. I’ve tried hard to leave politics out of this blog. For one thing, I don’t want to lose half of my readers over a political statement. And that’s not what this blog is for anyway. So I’ll refrain from sharing my views on this election, except in respect to how it could very well affect me and my cancer treatment. I hope not, but if those in leadership starting in January keep their promises, I could be in some serious trouble.

But before I get into that, I should tell you that my cold is getting better. It’s settled into a phlegmy cough that’s mainly bad at night. My voice isn’t back yet, but I expect to be back to full strength, or close to it, by next week. I had an IV treatment of Vitamin C and Zinc on Tuesday, and expected to feel much better yesterday, but I don’t think it made any difference. I laid awake coughing for half the night on Tuesday, so yesterday was rough. But I slept much better last night, and feel like I’m on the mend today. My big performance a week from Sunday is still on. Holy smokes, it’s a week from Sunday!

I always avoid talking about politics online. I especially hate political posts on Facebook. Followed closely by games and pictures of food! I’ve always been very interested in politics, but this election has cured me of that. When my wife was looking forward to her retirement, she expressed concern that I’d be watching political coverage all the time while she was at home. She doesn’t like the amount of time I’ve spent on it. I had three daily political talk shows I recorded and watched every day. There was another weekly one I watched almost every week. So I made her a promise. I told her that, after this election, I’d give up politics for good. And I have.

I stopped recording all of those shows, and I relied upon local news Wednesday morning to tell me the outcome. I couldn’t even stay up to see the final call. Another thing cancer has taken from me. I’ve avoided political news since the election, and I have to say, it feels pretty good. I don’t miss it.

But the results of this election will have a profound, concrete effect on me and all of my loved ones. I don’t mean to be melodramatic when I say what I’m about to say. I’m just stating the facts as I know them, and taking the candidates and elected officials at their word about what they will do. Not for the first or last time, I feel the need to say to my international readers (and how thankful I am that you are here!) that the concept of having to buy insurance coverage for health care will be a foreign concept for you. Literally! But that’s the way it is here in the United States for many, if not most of us.

In my last post, I mentioned the fact that, for most of my adult life, as a self-employed musician, I’ve had no health insurance. That was also true before I became self-employed, because I worked for companies that were too small to provide it. It wasn’t until the Affordable Care Act – otherwise known as Obamacare – was implemented in 2014, that I was able to get coverage that we could afford. The next year, I was diagnosed with aggressive, inoperable prostate cancer. But because of the new law, I could not be dropped because of my illness.

Under the ACA, preventative care is free, including yearly checkups. That’s how I found out I have cancer, in a regular checkup with blood work, which cost me nothing. That’s when they discovered that 15.8 PSA number.

My coverage has changed three times in the last three years, and it’s been a bit of a roller coaster – well documented in this blog – but I’ve had coverage. Under the old system, I would have discovered my high PSA at a local health fair. After paying out of pocket for a biopsy, an MRI and a bone scan, I would have been diagnosed. But I would not have been able to get insurance after being diagnosed with a serious pre-existing condition. A terminal illness.

You all know where I’m going with this. This congress has tried more than 50 times to repeal Obamacare. This coming January, they will have a President who will sign a repeal. They say they will do it within the first 100 days. At that point, I expect to lose the coverage I have.

I know they say there will be a replacement for it, but I doubt that whatever replacement there is will be ready in the first 100 days, or that it will cover people like me the way Obamacare has. It will be a more “free market” approach, which will mean I’ll be thrown back onto the individual market. Will there be protections for people with pre-existing conditions? I don’t see how that works unless they mandate that everyone buys insurance, the way Obamacare does. You can’t force insurance companies to cover sick people unless you give them a lot more new customers at the same time. That was the deal that Obamacare made with the insurance carriers; You have to insure everybody, but all the healthy people will have to buy insurance too.

My treatment costs are high, though not as high as many. My four-month Lupron shot, which is due again in January, costs $1,900. But as you know if you’ve been reading this blog, Lupron has stopped controlling my cancer. So we needed an add-on to it; Xtandi, which costs $9,000 per month. If I lose coverage early next year, and have to wait for the government to come up with some replacement, nobody is going to pick up that tab in the meantime. We have friends with means who are helping us a lot, but I think that’s beyond their reach.

I have many other concerns about the outcome of this election, as many do. But this one is in sharp focus. It’s deeply personal, and it’s literally a matter of life and death. The alarming rate at which my cancer was advancing has been, for the moment, arrested by Xtandi. If I have to go off of it for even a few months because the cost is too high, all those gains will be lost in a hurry. If I lose coverage permanently, well, you do the math.

I know Obamacare has its problems. I know it’s been a hardship for some. I know people that it’s been a hardship for. And I really don’t want the comments on this post to be a debate on the merits and drawbacks of the ACA. I’m just telling you my story. Once I had no insurance, now I have it. And I’m afraid that I’ll lose it soon, and that my life span will be severely shortened because of it, because no company will cover me with aggressive Stage 4 cancer. That’s all.

That’s as close to a political statement as you’ll ever see from me. I’d like to end this post on a more positive note. Earlier, I talked about how I dislike politics on Facebook. A couple of weeks ago, I composed a post that I intended to put on my Facebook timeline, but never did. I think the sentiment of that post would make a good conclusion to this one. Here’s part of what I wrote, but never posted:

I never react to or comment on a political post on Facebook, whether I agree or disagree. I’m as political as anyone. Probably more than most. But friendships are ending over this election. I refuse to let that happen. I don’t want to lose anyone I love to this crap show. It comes down to this: I love my friends more than I love my belief systems. If we could all get to that point, this world would be a much better place, I think.

Let’s love each other more than we love our belief systems, whether they be political, religious, or any other construct. Elections come and go, but people are forever. As Forrest Gump would say, that’s all I have to say about that.

Now that I’m done with politics, these words ring true to me all the more. Let’s love each other more than we love our belief systems. I am at peace about my mortality. It’s up to God to decide if I get more time or less. Who knows, maybe Xtandi was only gonna work for me for a few more months anyway. But I’d like to keep taking it for as long as it works, not just for as long as I can afford to take it.

However this works out, I hope that, in their rush to dismantle the signature achievement of this President that they despise so much, they remember to protect people like me. #waroncancer

Cancer With A Cold

This is the first time I’ve been sick since I’ve been sick. I mean, it’s the first time I’ve had a cold or some kind of bug since I was diagnosed with cancer. It’s not fun, and it’s made worse by the rehearsal schedule I’ve committed to. In fact, I have to make this post short, or my wife will start telling me to get back in bed.

I’ve always been able to get over colds quickly, within two or three days. I attribute this to the fact that, for most of my adult life, as a self employed musician, I didn’t have health insurance. So I didn’t go running to the doctor every time I had a sniffle, and therefore, have not been taking antibiotics my whole life. I really believe that antibiotics, while sometimes necessary, if taken repeatedly over a course of many years, beat down our body’s ability to heal itself.

When I would come down with a cold, I’ve had a regimen for many years that’s worked for me. In the 1980’s, when I was going to a walk-in clinic when I needed to see a doctor, a physician I saw there advised me to overload on Vitamin C to ward off a cold. He told me to take 1,000 milligrams four times a day. That worked pretty well for me for a period of years, but then I learned about echinacea in the 1990’s. Since then, when I feel a cold coming on, or I’m trying to recover from one, I take my 1,000 milligram capsule of Vitamin C (Natural C, never synthetic, with rose hips – who knew roses had hips?) with an eyedropper full of echinacea drops in a glass of water four times a day: Breakfast, lunch, dinner, and before I go to bed. A few days of doing that, plus sleeping with a vaporizer in a closed room when needed, would knock a cold out of me in just a few days, or keep one from gaining a foothold, while my friends who had been taking antibiotics for their whole lives had their coughs and colds hang on for weeks.

But that was before I got cancer. I’ve wondered since I was diagnosed what would happen if I caught a cold or flu. God forbid I get the flu. That’s why I got a flu shot. Will Lupron and Xtandi, by making my body weaker, make the recovery time from a cold longer? Could I get an infection that sends me to the hospital? Is my immune system compromised from hormone treatment?

In my last post, I talked about an upcoming rehearsal, and how important the performance it was for is to me. That rehearsal was last Saturday. If we are Facebook friends, you may have seen a video from it that I posted yesterday morning. I could feel this crud coming on beforehand, but I powered through the rehearsal as best I could. My voice wasn’t full strength, but it was good enough to get through this important rehearsal. This one wasn’t quite as long as the last, but it still went for five hours. I ended up having to shut it down during a third run-through of the closing medley. After the fifth or sixth run to the Kleenex box in a few minutes, I said, “I gotta call it. The crud’s taking over.” And since then, it has.

Even when relatively healthy, I’d expect to need a recovery day or two after a rehearsal like that. What I didn’t take into account is that the effort to fight off this cold would would fail spectacularly because of having run myself down the way I did. I couldn’t go to church yesterday, and I had to cancel a vocal rehearsal tonight because I’m still too sick. I don’t want to infect my friends. I’m afraid I may have already done that on Saturday, though I certainly hope not.

I’m better today than I was yesterday. I’m hoping that two days of rest and keeping to my regimen – along with another herbal remedy recommended by a friend – will get me back to full strength in time for the next rehearsal on Wednesday. I also have an appointment set for an IV treatment of Vitamin C and Zinc tomorrow morning. If all these measures don’t get me well enough to rehearse two days from now, this final big performance of my career is in jeopardy, as I said in an earlier post.

Last Friday night at dinner, a dear friend told me to take it easy on Saturday. She asked what would happen if I had to cut this performance down or cancel it. I tried to communicate to her how important this is to me, and how I’m willing to pay whatever price is necessary to see it through. If you watch the video of that rehearsal, you can see how much this energizes me. So taking it easy is not an option.

I have a mantra with the kids I’m helping to coach: Practice like you play. Practice with the same intensity and enthusiasm as though you’re in front of an audience. Practice like you play, or else you’ll end up playing like you practice. That’s what I’ve always done. It’s the only way I know how. Like a puppy, I have two speeds: Stop and Go. In a rehearsal for something this precious to me, there is no Take It Easy. There’s only Full Speed Ahead.

I’m almost afraid of the advice I’ll get from all of you. Slow down. Take care of yourself. Try this cold remedy. I really appreciate that you care, but this is something I have to do. I just wish I didn’t have to try to do it with a cold. Or with cancer.

But if not for cancer, I wouldn’t be doing this much. That’s the irony. It’s the Sense Of Urgency that I have now that pushes me. I don’t know if I’ll be able to do something this big next year. I’ll only be weaker, and maybe in pain. As I told my friend on Friday when she asked what would happen if I couldn’t go through with this performance, I told her I’d regret it for the rest of my life, however long that is. If I lose a little time on the back end because I pushed myself so hard now, so be it. At least I will have done what I love, and what I was born to do, one last time.

It stinks having a cold, even without cancer. With cancer, it’s worse. But hopefully, not that much worse for me. I don’t think I’m likely to get an infection that sends me to the hospital, because I haven’t had chemo to compromise my immune system. Yet another reason not to do chemo.

I need your prayers now more than ever. I need to kick this thing fast so I can be ready for the next rehearsal, and my last big public performance. Thank you for your continued support and prayers. They are needed, and they are felt. #waroncancer

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